What is maturity? The lack of maturity in alcoholics and addicts

What is maturity? The lack of maturity in alcoholics and addicts: "What Maturity Is Maturity is many things. First it is the ability to base a judgement on the Big Picture-The Long Haul. It means being able to pass up the fun-for-the-minute and select the course of action which will pay off later. One of the characteristics of infancy is the 'I want it NOW approach.' Grown up people can wait. Maturity is the ability to stick with a project or a situation until it is finished. The adult who is constantly changing jobs, changing friends, and changing mates--is immature. He cannot stick it out because he has not grown up. Everything seems to turn sour after awhile. Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat without complaint or collapse. The mature person knows he can't have everything his own way. He is able to defer to circumstances, to other people--and to time.

Maturity is the ability to live up to your responsibilities, and this means being dependable. It means keeping your word. And dependability equates with personal integrity. Do you mean what you say---say what you mean? The world is filled with people who can't be counted on. People who never seem to come through in the clutches. People who break promises and substitute alibis for performance. They show up late--or not at all. They are confused and disorganised. Their lives are a chaotic maze of unfinished business." Read more...